In recognition of Alzheimer’s and Dementia staff education week, one of our Elsevier CPM staff members, Michelle Phelps, took some time to discuss the educational journey she went through as a nurse and a daughter when one of her family members was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s disease.
My mother was a wonderful person. She was funny, generous, loving, attractive, creative…and one of my best friends. Alzheimer’s disease changed everything.
As an RN, I have been prepared to take care of patients and respond to physical, emotional and spiritual needs. I was not prepared to be a daughter losing her mother over a period of 10 years to a cruel disease. I cannot adequately describe what it feels like to watch someone you love lose all of those special qualities that made her the person that she was. I was grieving her loss while she was still alive. As a nurse, I knew that this disease was following the expected course. However, the daughter part of me struggled. It was devastating the first time she forgot my name. As time went on, she forgot how to do even the simplest things…changing her clothes, brushing her teeth, taking a shower. She forgot that she was a mother and looked at me as a rival…not as her daughter. She forgot that she was married and did not remember my father. Home was no longer a comfort for her…it was unfamiliar. She came to refuse my efforts to help her and care for her. Although I knew it was the disease, the pain was still there for me.
One thing she did not lose was her love of God. Even in her last months of life, she retained that love and talked about God. It was pretty amazing. Our faith has been a central part of all of our lives. God provided strength for my father and I to be on the journey with my mother and He continued to care for her. I lost my mother to this dreadful disease in 2010. I still miss her, but she is at peace. I would never wish her back as she was in the later years of her life, but I am so thankful and blessed to have had her as my mother…and one of my best friends.

Michelle has been employed by CPM for nearly 7 years. She is a graduate of Butterworth School of Nursing, holds a BSN from University of Detroit/Mercy and a Master’s Degree in Management from Aquinas College. Michelle’s clinical experience has been in several different areas of Obstetrics, including Antepartum, Antenatal Testing, Labor & Delivery and Postpartum. She also has experience in case management within the ambulatory OB/GYN clinic setting. Michelle contributes her expertise to many evidence-based content development projects with her specialty focus being Obstetrics and Newborn care. She currently holds the position of Product Director for both CPM CarePoints Guidelines™ and CarePoints Emergency™ products.






